Everyone in the world is suffering from an identity
crisis. Something of ourselves is always leaving us and
going into others and something of them is always
coming into us. And strange as it may seem, this
exchange process has something to do with our
despair and our dying.
       In our present state of mind, everyone is becoming us
and we are becoming everyone else. The very coming
together of two people sets in motion a strange process.
Immediately one begins to lead; in the course of time,
that leadership expresses itself in an increasing irritability
that leads to tyranny and finally, to cruel domination.
       Soon the tyrant personality begins to suffer feelings
of guilt and anxiety for the demon role he feels obliged
to play, while his hapless slave feels guilty for his weak-
ness and his growing inferiority. Then, by adding
resentment to his fear, the coward is compelled to go
on giving power to the bully, thus enabling him to go
on being more of a beast.
       Sensing deep down that the way in which the victim is
responding to him is largely responsible for the agoniz-
ing pain of his own power trip, the bully soon develops

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